It's time to say Hello To A Boozeless Summer!
Does this seem daunting to you right now?
Are you already thinking of how will I get through the 4th of July without drinking?
Are you sabotaging yourself from the start by saying, "no way can I do that?"
Are you saying, "nope, I'll start when Summer is over?"
If you're thinking those things, you're not even giving yourself a fighting chance from the start. Being alcohol-free isn't a punishment; it's an absolute gift.
The gift of no hangxiety.
The gift of creating memories with your kids.
The gift of feeling proud of yourself.
The gift of giving your mind, body, and soul the love it deserves.
So are you ready to give yourself the gift of a boozeless Summer? It's the best gift you'll ever give yourself. I promise you that.
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People say you can't get sober for anyone else but yourself. I call bullshit on that! Hear me out.
I truly believe that if I didn't have my son, I wouldn't be sober today. He gave me the external motivation to stop self-destructing because he needed me. He deserved a mother who wasn't consumed with when her next drink would be or spending the days laid in bed or hugging the toilet.
So yes, he was my initial motivator, but as time has passed, I'm sober for ME. He can't keep me sober because that's not his job. What happens when he goes to college and moves out? Would that mean I'd return to the bottle because he's gone, so there's no other reason to stay sober? Hell to the no.
I'm sober because I DESERVE IT.
My body deserves it.
My mind deserves it.
My soul deserves it.
So while he was the reason, I asked for help and wanted to get out of the cycle. He isn't my only reason for STAYING sober. There's so much more to live for now.
Long gone are the days that are an absolute blur...
This weekend is the non-official start to Summer here in the Northern Hemisphere. For some, this may mean day drinking on the beach, sitting outside on the patio with a cold beer in your hand, or sitting by the fire pit on those chilly nights with your favorite alcoholic beverage of choice.
What if I told you you could do all of this but swap out your favorite non-alcoholic beverage instead?
What if I told you that getting through all the Summer holidays without a hangover the next day is possible?
What if I told you that your Summer will still be full of fun, a golden glow, and enjoying the summer activities with your kids?
What if I told you that you wouldn’t be wasting another day filled with crippling anxiety, regret, and wondering what embarrassing thing you said or did the night before?
All of this is possible, but if you’ve been relying on willpower alone and haven’t been able to get past your roadblock mark (usually around day 4 to 5), then...
You wake up feeling guilty.
You only intend to have "one" glass of wine but finish the bottle.
You tell yourself you're going to take a break from drinking for 30 days, but then 5 days in, go back to drinking.
You don't remember putting the kids to bed.
Your day revolves around when you'll be able to have your next drink.
You are self-medicating.
Bottom line is if you're on this page or you are questioning your relationship with alcohol, then you know something is off. Trust that gentle nudge inside of yourself.
You know, deep down, something needs to change.
You know that you can’t keep living your life in this alcohol-induced haze.
You know that you are meant for so much more than reaching for a glass of wine when times get tough.
You know that your kids deserve a mother who says alcohol is bad but then actually shows them that by not drinking it herself.
Don’t keep putting your mental and physical health on the back burner. We only...
No, you don't "deserve" a drink for making it 30 days without alcohol.
You deserve to keep giving your mind and body the care it needs by continuing not to drink.
How many of you have done this? I did.
It's madness what we put ourselves through for a poison that's destroying our mind, body, and soul. Don't celebrate the fact that you went 30 days without drinking by then turning to alcohol. Celebrate that you went 30 days without alcohol and keep going to experience even more benefits.
Are you ready to give your mind and body the love it deserves by not drinking?
Join 39 other mothers and me for the Confidently Be Alcohol-Free - 60 Day Challenge is NOW OPEN for registration. This is the LAST ROUND of the challenge for the foreseeable future and maybe EVER. As I've mentioned on my personal profile (@alysonpremo), things are changing behind the scenes with my coaching programs, and I've never been more excited for what's to come, but that means some things have to go for now, and this...
This secret of your struggle with alcohol that you're hiding and holding in isn't allowing you to actually move forward and heal.
I know what you're thinking; how can I possibly tell my family and friends what I'm going through? It would set me up for more shame, fear of judgment, and even more thoughts of why can't I just be normal.
I AM NOT telling you to out yourself to all your closest friends and family and make a social media post about how you're struggling with your alcohol consumption. If you want to do that, then I ABSOLUTELY would encourage you to do that, but you don't have to. That is not a requirement to start your alcohol-free journey.
But telling someone is the way to help you move forward and start the healing process. This someone could be a therapist, a coach, a random person on social media, someone at an AA meeting, a significant other, a close friend, or anyone that will hold space for you.
I can't tell you how many times I've heard, "After talking to you, I...
Are you acting in line with your priorities every day?
I'm assuming if you're on this page that one of your priorities is remaining alcohol-free. So since that's your main goal every single day, are you actively choosing to do things that align with that priority, or are you choosing things that aren't?
For instance, let's say you're at the beginning of your sobriety journey, and your friends invite you to a brunch. You know without a doubt that the mimosas are going to be flowing like water. So what do you do to act in line with the priority of staying alcohol-free?
Do you decline the invite?
Do you tell your friends beforehand that you're not drinking?
Do you commit before even walking in the restaurant that you will only be having soda water with lime?
Or do you do none of the above and say f*ck it, it's just this once?
Which version of you is going to get farther on this journey?
I already know that answer. It goes back to we can't keep doing the same things and expecting change....
Let me see all of you mothers who are celebrating Cinco De Mayo alcohol-free!
Today really is just another day. Don't be fooled by the marketing tactics that you have to drink or drink to excess on a holiday like today.
I mean, who needs margs when you've got chips & salsa?
Who's celebrating the holiday alcohol-free style with me?
Let me see those hands!
Let's show others that they aren't alone because they definitely aren't!
I've got some exciting news in store!!! The 30 Day 1:1 Coaching Program (Bye, Bye Booze...Hello Freedom!) is going into the vault and will most likely never be offered again. Transformation doesn't happen in 30 days, and I'm doing a disservice to you by saying it does, so it's going bye, bye. And to be honest, most of my clients that enroll in the 30 days extend it for another 60 days anyway.
The program will be retired on Saturday, May 8th, so message me before then to see if it would be a good fit for you. This program is best for those who have cut down...
At some point in your life, you get tired of unhealthy connections, whether it be people or things. As you grow, certain things become intolerable to your liking...and that's ok.
Mamas, stop beating yourselves up for outgrowing people and places when you stop drinking. It is ok.
You don't have to stay tied to a friendship, relationship, or anything that is no longer serving you, including alcohol.
We go through phases in life, and as we grow, that means friendships drift apart. Things that you enjoyed doing don't appeal to you anymore. And that's a good sign. That means that you are trusting yourself and following what YOU truly what and who you want to be surrounded by.
This is a common concern that I talk through with a lot of my clients. Of course, there's a bit of sadness when friendships or relationships are no longer serving us, but I promise you that you will attract others who have similar values and goals as you once you DECIDE that you deserve that.
You just have to be...
"You can get help from teachers, but you are going to have to learn a lot by yourself, sitting alone in a room." - Dr. Sesuss
This is important to remember. You can read all the inspirational quotes, follow all the sobriety accounts for advice and relatability, read all the self-help books in the world, but you have to realize that you and only you can change your story. Doing all the things above is amazing and is a great step to change, but you have to be willing to sit with your own thoughts.
Sitting with those feelings can be uncomfortable. Let's be real here; we drank so we didn't have to sit with our own thoughts and whatever was happening around us. It was our escape. But was it really? Were those few minutes of relief worth it for the torture you put yourself through the next day? The negative self-talk, the not being clear-headed, the just wanting to get through the day so you can get to bed.
Are those few minutes of relief worth it? No, because it's the same cycle every...
Have you been trying to get out of the toxic drinking cycle, but then after 4 or 5 days, you say, "screw it!"?
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