Once upon a time, there was a girl from a small town in Connecticut who felt she was never good enough.
Not pretty enough.
Not athletic enough.
Not outgoing enough.
Not smart enough.
She grew up in a household where "perfection" was expected and led to the small views she had of herself.
She went to college, and started to let herself be free, but not the free you're thinking of. Free of the grips of her mother's hold. Free of the constant criticism. Free of the strict rules.
She drank until she blacked out. Slept with random men, and did not know her worth. She jumped from man to man looking for that love she was missing in childhood.
She got pregnant, and finally knew what love was. Love was putting someone else's needs above your own. The love that only a mother knows. She wondered why her own mother couldn't love her the way that she loved her son.
She made it her mission not to raise her son as her mother had raised her. She did the exact opposite of what her mother did and...
One of my favorite women in this sober community asked me a question last week in my stories. It was pretty profound and made me take a step back, so I told her I would answer it for my 3 year soberversary blog post. Her question was, "How proud of yourself are you that you started such a successful and inspirational place for women to share and bond? How do you go about telling non-sober women what you do when asked?”
On 11/14/16 when I stepped foot into detox I had no idea where I’d be 3 years later. I mean I didn’t even know if this was my “rock bottom”. I had tried to get sober two other times before this and thought I could moderate, and look at where it got me. Would that same mindset lead me to slip up yet again? Not this time my friends. This time was different. The hell of racing thoughts, blurry vision, and wondering if I was going to die from these withdrawals was what I needed to be like, “Alyson cut the shit! Because if you...
Yesterday I had posted on the @sobermomtribe Instagram page about options and how we can’t tell anyone how they SHOULD get and stay sober. We all have a unique journey, past, and many other circumstances that shape what path will work best for us. In no way was I saying that AA was bad. In fact, I listed AA as an option, and a choice that I had tried at the beginning of my journey and it wasn’t my thing. But that’s ok. I had other tools in my toolbox that have kept me over 3.5 years sober.
I had posted other options that people may use, such as coaching, therapy, podcasts, quit lit, etc. You get the idea. Of course, I knew that someone would eventually come on and defend AA, which is fine; that’s their path and they are passionate about what has worked for them. Then it turned ugly. People who were advocating AA saying that if you don’t do AA, then there’s no way to achieve long term sobriety. That if you’re not in AA, then...
You know those people that I’m talking about, right? Those that say I’m drinking red wine for the antioxidants. Um, you can get your daily dose of antioxidants without ethanol in it. Blueberries, grapefruit, watermelon, broccoli, carrots, and the list goes on are foods that you can eat without a side of cancer-causing carcinogens.
This week the American Cancer Society published NEW GUIDELINES for alcohol. The previous recommendation was if you drink alcoholic beverages, limit to no more than one drink per day for women and 2 per day for men. The new recommendation is to AVOID alcohol altogether.
I think many of us have been waiting for this day. I’m shocked that this happened right now and not a couple of years down the road. Finally, what a lot of us have been saying for years has been brought to light, and it’s a great feeling to be validated. Below are a few more reasons why these new guidelines are amazing.
1) Isn't it easier to stop or not do something...
Have you been trying to get out of the toxic drinking cycle, but then after 4 or 5 days, you say, "screw it!"?
Download the top three reasons WHY the inner wine witch gives in, and what you can do to conquer that wine witch once and for all.