You have to feel it to heal it.

The number one reason why we drink is because we don't want to feel. We don't want to feel those uncomfortable emotions.

When it came to sadness, I would reach for a bottle of wine and forget about the problem until I was done with the bottle and hysterically crying myself to sleep. This wasn't helping me truly embrace the feeling. The alcohol suppressed the emotion until my inhibitions were loosened, and I let it out, but I couldn't process it. It was an endless cycle of drink to suppress, cry or lash out, pass out, wake up the next day with the issue still there, then repeat.

Now when sadness comes, I let it move through me. I cry. I reach out to someone to talk through it. I journal it out. I do whatever I can to not suppress and to normalize the sadness. It's ok to be sad. It's ok to feel it. I know it's uncomfortable and feels scary at first, but that's the only way out. This is the way to process those emotions. Not running to a bottle of wine every time you're sad or anxious or don't know how to handle what life has thrown at you.

The hard times don't stop just because we get sober. We still have to experience the ups and downs of life, but at least without alcohol, we're able to get out of the endless loop and actually heal and move forward.

In coaching, we bring these issues to the forefront and work on them. We can't heal and move forward unless we start feeling and get to the deep-rooted issue. And most of the time, we're not even aware these problems exist, so that's what I help you to do - bring them out.

Interested in working together? I have ONE spot open for 1:1 coaching in April. Message me (@sobermomcoach) to see if it would be a good fit for you!