Every time I chose alcohol, I simultaneously rejected something else. Most of the time, that was being present with my child.

That's a punch in the gut statement, huh? But it's true. Every time you choose alcohol, you are rejecting something else. And for most of us mothers, that tends to be the time we spend with our kids.

We can't deal with their tantrums, so we choose alcohol to soothe ourselves.

We can't deal with the overwhelm, so we choose alcohol to escape.

We can't deal with having to do it all, so we choose alcohol and do nothing.

You made a choice, and you chose alcohol. But alcohol isn't the best option for the stresses of motherhood. We've been conditioned to believe it is, but it is the worst option that you could possibly choose. Why? Because you become more anxious, more depressed, and it doesn't help the actual issue.

You're just setting yourself up for a vicious cycle that one day you won't have a choice over anymore. Addiction takes away that choice, and all you...

Why am I so passionate about the Confidently Be Alcohol-Free - 60 Day Challenge? Because it works! The single aspect of connection alone will increase your chances of success to long-term sobriety.

As moms, we don’t have a lot of extra time to focus on ourselves. We’re focusing on our kids, our significant others, our friends, our parents, etc. Some feel that these challenges will be an extra layer of pressure added to their life. That’s the last thing I want to do. I want to provide bite-size pieces of information as well as a small, safe space where you feel comfortable in sharing (or venting) your struggles with alcohol and motherhood. That’s exactly what the 60 Day Alcohol-Free Challenge is for.

LAST CALL on Early Bird Pricing for the Confidently Be Alcohol-Free- 60 Day Challenge starting May 1st! If you've been struggling and wondering why no one else understands what you're going through. We do. The connections these mothers form in this challenge are...

EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.

Are you showing up for yourself when it comes to ditching alcohol?

Are you intentionally planning out your day so that when the wine witch hits, you can disrupt the pattern with a healthier alternative?

Are you becoming aware of your triggers and how to handle them moving forward without alcohol?

Are you putting yourself at the top of your list?

Are you surrounding yourself with others who want a healthier lifestyle?

All of these come into play when we remove alcohol from our life. It's not just about removing the substance either. That's a tiny piece of the puzzle. The real work lies in the beliefs and stories you are telling yourself around alcohol and why you think you need it in your life.

It's time to start showing up and getting yourself out of this toxic cycle for good by joining us in the Confidently Be Alcohol-Free - 60 Day Challenge that starts on May 1st!

Early bird pricing ends FRIDAY (4/23) at 11:59 pm EST.

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I’ve been there. Not seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Feeling like a failure and not believing you deserve a better life. In those dark moments, I wish I had a mentor to guide me and show me my worth. Ultimately what I wanted to see was HOPE. That’s what coaches and mentors do. We’re there to encourage, pick you back up when you fall, and ask you questions to get you to those “aha” moments. Those moments where things finally click, you start believing in yourself, and you’re finally able to string days, months, and years together.

If you’re looking for someone to show you the light at the end of the tunnel, then message me to see if you'd be a good fit for either the 1:1 Coaching Program or Confidently Be Alcohol-Free - 60 Day Challenge.

My prices will be increasing for my 1:1 programs on May 1st, and all my spots for April are currently filled, so if you'd like to lock in the current pricing, please message me WAITLIST, and we can...

The number one reason why we drink is because we don't want to feel. We don't want to feel those uncomfortable emotions.

When it came to sadness, I would reach for a bottle of wine and forget about the problem until I was done with the bottle and hysterically crying myself to sleep. This wasn't helping me truly embrace the feeling. The alcohol suppressed the emotion until my inhibitions were loosened, and I let it out, but I couldn't process it. It was an endless cycle of drink to suppress, cry or lash out, pass out, wake up the next day with the issue still there, then repeat.

Now when sadness comes, I let it move through me. I cry. I reach out to someone to talk through it. I journal it out. I do whatever I can to not suppress and to normalize the sadness. It's ok to be sad. It's ok to feel it. I know it's uncomfortable and feels scary at first, but that's the only way out. This is the way to process those emotions. Not running to a bottle of wine every time you're sad or anxious...

At one point, many of us who are sober couldn't imagine a life without alcohol, but here we are, proving our past selves wrong.

It's easy to think that people who have been sober for a while now don't understand what it was like on day one without alcohol. Trust me. We understand.

We, too, had the thoughts of...

How am I going to make it through life without alcohol?
No one is going to like me if I don't drink.
What if I fail?

Also, the anxiety that feels like it's never going to end and you're going to die? The worst. But we're living proof that we made it through those hard times. We made it through all the "firsts," and we're here to tell you that you can too.

We all have to start somewhere. We all started with the same fears, doubts, and anxieties of not drinking. If I could tell you anything, it would be that the fears aren't as bad as your mind wants you to think they are. Our brain wants to keep us safe and in our comfort zone, but tell that inner gremlin that you are DONE...

One of my favorite sayings is, "CHOOSE YOUR HARD" because you have the choice of whether you want to make your life harder than it needs to be.

Most of the time, we think drinking makes it easier for us to get through life or motherhood but does it really?

Is waking up with a hangover and having to take care of the kids all day worth those 30 minutes of relief?

Is the crippling anxiety the next day worth the 30 minutes of relief that you were looking for to make your anxiety better at the moment?

Is the constant negative self-talk and how you just can't do it worth it for those 30 minutes of relief?

No, it's absolutely not, but we think it is. We look for that immediate reward because that's what we've always done. We've always gone to alcohol to relieve whatever life has thrown our way, and it can be uncomfortable and hard to unlearn that pattern and rewire a new one.

But at least when you're working on ditching alcohol, there's a reward waiting for you on the other side that no...

I can't imagine if I was still drinking right now. Guaranteed, I'd either be dead, my son would hate me and grow up with some serious trauma, or I'd mindlessly be going through the motions of life until I could get my next drink.

Typing that out makes me sad. Seriously that's what my life could've become if I kept drinking. If when I got out of detox, I decided to go right back to drinking. What a waste of a life that would be.

The growth that I've seen in myself and others who are close to me have seen in the past 4 years is more than I've seen in my entire life.

Through sober eyes, I was able to see that....

I'm in control of my life and not a victim of my circumstances.
Forgiving others doesn't mean you forget what they've done, but you know that it gives you peace.
Resentment and jealousy will eat you up alive if you let it.
Constantly complaining and blaming is not a good look.
Life is going to be challenging, but you can either look at it as an opportunity for growth or a way...

I can't force anyone to change their relationship with alcohol, but I can be your guide while you try to find your way.

This is a tough one for me sometimes. As a coach, my not being attached to your outcome is the greatest way for me to give you the transformation you're looking for.

You know what happens when we force someone to do something, right? We push them away even further, so as a coach, my job is to support you by asking questions so that you can find the answer within yourself. So that you can provide your own accountability when our time together is over.

The goal of coaching is not for you to become reliant on me. It's for you to become confident enough so that you can cut the cord and take the tools you learned into your life.

Of course, I will be in your corner as long as you need me, but ultimately I want you to be able to succeed on your own. And when I say on your own, I don't mean without a support network. I mean, without a coach holding you accountable and...

If you let yourself, you will always find an excuse to keep drinking. I spent many years thinking I was too young or wasn't that bad, or everyone around me was drinking just as much as I was.

The truth was there will never be a perfect day to quit drinking. No matter what day you start, it's going to be uncomfortable because it's new. Will it be hard? More than likely, but that just goes to show you the grips alcohol has on you.

The most important thing I want you to get out of this post is the longer you wait, the harder it gets. And I'm not saying that you have to use the forever word or won't have slip-ups on this journey, but what I am saying is starting now and having mishaps while learning lessons along the way is better than not starting at all.

Don't be the mom years from now wondering about what-if I started when I wasn't ready. I've heard these before.

What if I started before I let my physical and mental health spiral out of control?
What if I started before my kids were...